End Toxic Relationship Patterns
found the man of my dreams and I've been delighting in a wonderful
and fulfilling marriage for over five years. And it keeps
getting better every day!
It's been an incredible experience to have met someone who I truly click with on so many different levels.
I never dreamed that a relationship could be so exciting and rewarding.
|Esther and her husband, Nathaniel|
Don't you deserve the same?
Dump That Chump is an outstanding
resource for women who are keen to take a good hard look at why
they are staying in less than ideal relationships with less than ideal
partners. DTC offers excellent suggestions and insights on how
to ask yourself the tough questions about why you're not with
a person who truly is your best possible mate... because believe it
or not, that person does exist. Based on her own extensive personal
and professional experience, Esther offers practical tools that
not only got me reflecting on past and present decisions in relationships,
but also gave me hope for a positive future...enough so that
I made my checklist for an ideal mate!
- Maryanne Pope; Writer, CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions Inc.
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Here is an overview of the Ten Steps outlined in the book and what you can expect to gain from working through each one:
In this first step, you will take concrete action towards treating yourself the way you want a fabulous partner to treat you someday. When you learn to adore yourself, you will be able to begin attracting a partner who treats you like the fabulous person that you are!
Here, you will have the opportunity to explore in-depth, the influences from your family that have shaped your beliefs and experiences in intimate relationships. This awareness will allow you to become ‘unstuck’ and to create healthier beliefs and experiences in relationships.
This step will help you explore influences from your ethnicity, culture, and/or religion that have shaped your beliefs and experiences in intimate relationships. Just like in Step Two, by working through the third step, you will gain new awareness that will allow you to become ‘unstuck’ and to create healthier beliefs and experiences in relationships.
I will show you how to identify your false beliefs and to replace them with positive and affirming ones that will raise your self-esteem and help you attract the kind of partner you want and deserve.
This step gives you tools to really get in touch with who you are as a person and what you are looking for in a mate. We often miss this step when we enter into relationships, leading to a lot of pain and suffering.
In this step, you will start to let go of "playing small" when you present yourself to potential partners. Instead, you will learn to "put your best foot forward" when you meet people who meet your 'ideal partner' criteria.
Here I will help you tap into the incredible power of the mind to create what you want and assist you in being able to picture your ideal partner before you ever meet them. You’ll be amazed and yet happily ready when your partner shows up!
In this step, you get to be an observer and get to know — and get used to — the kind of person you are one day going to attract. If you’ve not had much experience with a different kind of person (i.e., a healthy one!), this will give you the crash course you need.
This step moves you from ‘observer’ to ‘active participant’ and will give you the opportunity to get to know different kinds of potential partners. With practice, this will become a very rewarding and positive experience. This will prepare you for meeting your ideal partner!
Finally, you'll have a chance to take everything you've learned in this book and "take your show on the road"! I will arm you with many helpful tools and tips to ensure that your dates are a success and will lead to the amazing, long-term rewarding relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
This easy-to-read, and
is bound to help many women who are either currently with the wrong
partner, or for those who are still searching for their soulmate. I
love the workbook style, as it helped me to integrate what I learned
from the book and apply it to my own situation. I wish I’d
had access to Dump
That Chump years ago,
as I could have avoided a lot of needless suffering. Esther, thanks for
sharing your wisdom and for helping me to tune into my inner feelings
and follow what they have to tell me. It’s great to have learned
to trust my intuition and to know it’s okay to follow it.
Still not convinced this book is for you?
Maybe you’re feeling so hopeless about your ‘picking the wrong person’ habit that you think this book wouldn’t work for you…
I totally understand that as I was in the same place a while back and felt that based on my track record of picking the wrong guys, I would never be able to change the way I “did” relationships and pick a healthy partner.
However, I was so sick and tired of being miserable in relationships that I was willing to believe that I had the power to change my patterns by learning new skills for attracting healthy people into my life.
I’m so glad I gave myself a chance and worked so hard to figure out how to stop moving towards toxic relationships and to become ready to meet the partner of my dreams because after five years of seriously hard work (all techniques I learned are outlined in this book), I met and married the man of my dreams!
Eight years since meeting him, I am reminded daily
of just how much my hard work paid off! I have truly met my equal who is my best friend,
lover, and a key support person in my life. I can’t imagine my
life without this amazing, kind, loving, gentle, funny, and intelligent
man. Of all of the successes I’ve achieved in my life, I count
finding my husband among the top three. And it just gets better each
and every day…
Still not convinced?
Maybe after reading about my experience, you’re saying to yourself, “Well good for her. She was just lucky. The chances of that happening to me are very small…”
I beg to differ. I’m not the only one who followed the 10 steps in Dump That Chump who has met the person of their dreams. Over the years, countless women I have worked with in therapy have also let go of toxic relationships and found their ideal partners by following these exact same steps. And believe me, many of these women had good reason to believe that it couldn’t be done! But with my support and guidance, they were able to move past their false beliefs about what is possible in relationships and what they deserve, ditch the bad ones, and find partners that they always dreamed of!
Candid, savvy, disarmingly funny, Esther Kane has gifted us with a practical guide to finding love that lasts. Her stories and exercises improve readers' self-awareness and dating patterns; Esther is living proof that her methods work and so am I.
- Karen Roe
When it comes to relationships, most of us have had seriously bad training. We were taught the wrong things about how relationships should be, how to meet the right partner, and what we deserve. The way to undo that learning is to replace it with something else that WORKS.
After going through the rigours of studying to become a psychotherapist and learning how to help people let go of the past and create a much better future; as well as personally overcoming my bad relationship training and creating an approach to attracting healthy relationships and teaching it successfully to a multitude of other women, the value of what I have learned and will share with you is priceless.
Esther, I really appreciate the fact that
you took the position of “I’ve been there”; it made
the information presented
very down-to-earth and applicable to my life. And unlike so many
other self-help books I’ve read and worked with, the
exercises in yours are unique and fun; things that I actually wanted to
try out and play with. The humour in Dump
That Chump had me laughing
out loud and made
the whole ‘self-help’ concept so much
fun! I had so many “aha” moments
while reading the book; I can’t count them — the one that
really stands out for me is that I should try looking for someone like
I used to go by the “opposites attract” theory when choosing
partners and it left me feeling frustrated and miserable every time.
Now I see that it’s possible to have the kind of relationship that
would truly make me happy. Thanks!
- Sue Pyper
This fun and easy-to-read book that will change the way you view relationships forever is priced at a ridiculously low $19.95 CDN! That’s even cheaper than a really bad first date!
What have you got to lose besides that excess weight
hauling around, otherwise known as ‘that chump’ of yours? That’s got to be worth at least eighteen bucks, wouldn’t
Remember, you don’t have to settle for miserable relationships. You can have the partner of your dreams. Invest in your love life today by purchasing this book and following the Ten Steps and start enjoying the greatest relationships you’ve ever had! The choice is yours: to continue the suffering or to be happy and fulfilled.
P.S. This book makes a great gift for someone you care about who is ready to have the relationship they have always dreamed of but have never been able to attract.
P.P.S You won’t be sorry!
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